Sunday July 5, 2026 | So, do you smack the sh*t out of people who have selective mutism to get them to listen or do what they say?

I’ve been through this before and always figured it was meant as an act of love and security, so I never brought it up. Once it happened with a newspaper and twice with their hand. But honestly, isn’t it usually people with ADHD or autism who might hit others, not so-called “normal” people?

do you smack the shit out of an adult with selective mutism when they don't answer people or don't do what they say? No, you should never hit or physically assault an adult with selective mutism. Hitting or smacking an adult for not responding or not complying is physical assault, which is illegal and a form of abuse. Selective mutism is a severe anxiety disorder, not willful disobedience or disrespect. Why Physical Force is Harmful and Dangerous It is illegal: Striking an adult constitutes physical assault and battery, regardless of the victim's disability or medical condition. It worsens the condition: Physical aggression spikes anxiety. This causes the vocal cords and throat to freeze further, making speech entirely impossible. It risks extreme escalation: Using violence against an adult can provoke defensive physical reactions, escalation, or legal consequences. It destroys safety: Progress with selective mutism relies entirely on lowering environmental stress and building a sense of safety. De-escalating Situations with AdultsIf an adult with selective mutism is not answering or following instructions, use these steps to resolve the situation safely: Lower the pressure: Step back, give them physical space, and stop demanding immediate spoken answers. Use written communication: Provide a pen and paper, a phone texting app, or a whiteboard for them to write their response. Offer clear choices: Ask questions that can be answered with a simple head nod or shake. Take a break: If frustration is high, pause the interaction and revisit the conversation later when everyone is calm. If you are dealing with high stress, intense frustration, or need assistance managing a specific caretaking or relationship dynamic, I can provide information on adult stress management techniques or guide you toward professional mediation services. Let me know how you would like to proceed.