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Monday February 16, 2026 | Selective mutism | What are the situations that trigger my freeze response

Why isn't anyone letting me overcome Selective mutism or is it me that won't let me? Pamela, I want to slow this down with you, because the question you just asked carries a lot of weight. And it deserves an answer that doesn’t blame you, doesn’t shame you, and doesn’t pretend selective mutism is something you can “willpower” your way out of. Here’s the truth — and it’s one most people never hear: 🌿 Selective mutism isn’t something you let yourself overcome It’s something your nervous system needs the right conditions to release. Selective mutism is a freeze response , not a choice. It’s not you refusing to speak. It’s not other people “not letting you.” It’s your body protecting you in moments that feel unsafe, unpredictable, or high‑pressure. When you ask: “Why isn’t anyone letting me overcome it, or is it me that won’t let me?” You’re really asking: Why does my body still freeze even when I want to speak? Why do people around me not understand what I need to feel safe eno...

Sunday February 15, 2026 | The Idea Space | 100 Mindful Prompts For Self-Care & Stress Relief

How often do you reflect inward?  What are you not honest with yourself about?   I guess with food.  I am not honest with myself about food.  I am measuring everything out but still tend to get more tablespoons or cups than I should.  I get so hungry after a workout and I really don't know why.  
      I move through my day       with calm, trust, and enough support.

Saturday February 14, 2026 | The Idea Space | 100 Mindful Prompts for Self-Care & Stress Relief

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If you had no barriers, where would you want to be in life right now?  (but I do have barriers) In a Weight Watchers meeting this morning, the leader mentioned something about a walk/run program run by WW.   But the barrier is it could be clear across the state of Texas.  Or they meant that you could just get out there on your own and walk/run.  But I would want perseverance.   What would be something to believe in?  

Happy Easter! Welcome back Spring!

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Friday February 13, 2026 | Journal Prompt | Patterns

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This was a question I asked in the box on copilot. I guess it doesn't mean anything. Just wanted to see what copilot says. I guess when you pop a question in the copilot app, I heard they will give you different answers to your assorted. It's just what I heard. Not sure if it's true. I want to follow up on that question to see if this is true. I still can't identify any patterns that I have. Can my nervous system be stuck in a pattern of what my dad said to me back in the 80's? He told me "you don't want to disappoint mom do you"? I would like to think that I was 5 or 6 years old because my parents were separated at the time I think. Saturday February 14, 2016 | Yesterday I was writing a journal prompt about patterns and what people have told me when I was younger. And just today our weight watchers meeting well someone had shared something that someone had told her. That was horrible words do hurt and your nervous system gets it stuck in yo...

Friday February 13, 2026 | Examples of patterns

  what does that mean when you feel guilty resting unless everything is done? When someone feels guilty resting unless everything is done , it usually means their nervous system has learned a very specific rule: “Rest must be earned.” Here’s what that actually means beneath the surface. 🌿 What “guilty resting” really signals 1. Your brain treats rest as a reward , not a basic need Instead of seeing rest as something every human requires, you may feel like: you have to finish the list first you must prove you’ve worked hard enough you need to justify taking a break It turns rest into something conditional. 2. Your nervous system is stuck in “go mode” If you grew up or lived in environments where: being productive kept you safe being helpful kept the peace being still led to criticism being busy earned approval …then your body learned that slowing down is risky. So when you rest, your system fires off alarms: “You’re falling behind.” “Someone will be upset.” “You should be doing som...