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When I spoke and read something aloud to my English teacher in the 9th grade.  I had struggled to speak at school from preschool to I'm guessing about the 12th grade.  Kids have bullied me from kindergarten up until I graduated from high school.  They have called me names and said that I did things that seemed like it was off the wall stuff like going all the way on the first date.  Really?  I would never do that even if I didn't have selective mutism.  So Jennifer got Robin to act as my bodyguard.  That is what I all I knew.   I can say this over and over and over, I may have selective mutism but I am certainly not stupid!  

I never really got to experience any life stages other than my first period, living on my own for 3 years.  Until they found out that I was sexually active with Jason when I was in my 30's.  That is what Jason seems to think.  And I believe him?  The short answer is no.  The current life stage is perimenopause.  People say that there are no symptoms of menopause other than hot flashes and night sweats and a woman losing her period.  I guess people have decided that I didn't have any problems with perimenopause.  But because peri and menopause is so personal, people just don't want to talk about it to anyone because it is embarrassing to talk about.  Right?  

How are your empathy levels today?  Is this something you'd like to work on?   I would like to work on empathy.  It doesn't matter how many books I read on empathy, I will still have no empathy for anyone else but me.  How do I work on empathy to where people notice a huge drastic change in me and not just doing the littlest things?     

List your three greatest personal challenges to date.  How did you overcome them and what lessons did you learn? This is a big one for many people who have selective mutism.  We have a hard time saying no and we have a hard time speaking up for ourselves.  Because we have that challenge, we have people who would do our talking for us and eventually it becomes automatic and they rescue automatically.  My relatives were speaking of selective mutism like it was my fault when clearly it was not my fault.   I found a quote or phrase I could keep in my phone either I show it or even say this phrase. When my speech shuts down.  It goes something like this.  "Sometimes my speech shuts down in certain situations. I am still listening and aware--I just need a few minutes to speak".   I had totally re-wrote that to fit my needs.   Here is my top three signs that my speech shut down.   1) Mind going blank. 2) Difficulty initiatin...

A positive action I think would be  Well I need an example of a positive action please.