Thursday May 14, 2026 | I remembered more when I was three

I remembered more when I was three. I think I heard that when I was in church from 3 to about 5. The preacher said something about death or so I thought. That scared me and I wasn't able to sleep after that. That why I do remember saying when I was 9 or 10.  I'm scared. Mom said of what?  I have been scared ever since and I wasn't able to say and I tried to ignore it. 

Oh when I was three to about five, I tried to ignore what scared me and tell myself to breathe and thought to myself to be in the now. Like right now. For years I have been scared. But it happens. 

Thursday May 14, 2026 | What traffic sign best reflects your life right now?

STOP!  Go no further than you can do!  You are a danger to yourself and other people around you.  I am unable to make decisions and make and sell bracelets and earrings.   I was told that it is just a hassle to make and sell bracelets and earrings.  I will get scammed and would not be able to back my way out of it if I was scammed by someone.  

Thursday May 14, 2026 | Why do you think some people are successful in life and others are not?

Well it was the way that the cards were delt for that person.  I personally think that for example; if a person has selective mutism, autism or ADHD, that was the way that the cards were delt for that person.  They do have to manage their ADHD, or Autism or selective mutism and it's really easy to manage.  Some people are just too lazy to manage their ADHD or is it now ADD.  I am talking about Jason as I look over toward the laptop.  ugh!  

Sunday May 10, 2026 | Exercising

I don't know if this is right but overexercising raises cortisol?  When I am exercising, I swear that I forget to stop after 30 minutes because I am having so much fun!  I just feel so good afterwards. My body feels so good!  

Friday May 8, 2026 | What is the best thing you have ever been given?

The best thing that I have ever been given was a ticket to see New Kids on the Block.  I was so excited to see them for the first time.  It was a concert ticket for my 16th birthday to see NKOTB in Houston Texas on February 10, 1990.  it was also a going away present kinda as me, mom and dad were moving to California.  I actually had a choice to either move to California or stay in Texas.  I chose right.  I chose to move to Cali.  I wanted the opportunity to live in California.  I loved it but living there in cali was cold as heck though but don't be fooled by the California sunshine.   Did I also mention how much I love NKOTB as a boyband?  I love each of them but my favorite one is Donnie Wahlberg, Jordan Knight and Jonathan Knight.   Back in the day, my favorite NK used to be Joe Mcintyre and even named my cat after him.  My favorite was also you got it!  Once a Donnie girl always a Donnie girl!  I love each of their songs.  That one song Hangin Tough got me through some hard times in my teenage and adult years.  It taught me to hang tough in whatever I might want to do.  Yeah like what?  I mentioned to mom when I was about 13, I wanted to act.  All she said to me was "you gotta be able to talk to do that".  Oh we could have put our heads together and made something work out.  But nooooooooo she had to a butthead!  Just remember butthead is smarter.  On Beavis and Butthead, Butthead was always the smarter character.  Both were pretty stupid but Butthead was the smarter one!  😂😁

Monday May 4, 2026 | I will not let people fill in the blanks and assume it means anger, judgment, disinterest or unpredictability.

 

🌱 2. Normalize your quietness so people don’t fill in the blanks

Most people misread silence because they assume it means:

• anger

• judgment

• confusion

• disinterest

• unpredictability

You can gently correct that by naming what your silence actually means:

“Quiet for me means I’m processing, not upset.”

“If I look away, I’m grounding myself so I can stay present.”

“I listen better when I’m not making eye contact.”

This gives people a map so they don’t invent their own story.

🌼 3. Give people a predictable pattern

People feel safer when they know what to expect.

You can offer a simple rhythm:

“I usually need a few seconds before I respond.”

“If I don’t answer right away, I’ll respond once I’ve processed.”

“I communicate better in writing, so feel free to text me if something feels unclear.”

Predictability reduces fear — not volume.

🌙 4. Use “I” statements that protect your dignity

These keep the focus on your style, not on labels:

• “I process internally.”

• “I think before I speak.”

• “I listen quietly.”

• “I communicate best when things are calm.”

• “I don’t always respond right away, but I am paying attention.”

These are adult, confident, and non‑pathologizing.

🔍 5. Clarify what your silence is not

This is powerful because it removes the fear people project onto you.

You can say:

“If I’m quiet, it’s not anger or judgment — it’s just how I communicate.”

“Silence doesn’t mean something is wrong.”

“I’m not ignoring you; I’m processing.”

This helps people stop assuming the worst.

🌟 6. Offer a tiny cue they can rely on

You don’t need to mask or perform — just give them one anchor.

Examples:

• a small nod

• a soft “mm‑hmm”

• a hand gesture

• a written note

• a thumbs‑up

• a short phrase like “I’m thinking”

These tiny cues reassure people without forcing you to talk.

🌾 7. Let your strengths speak for you

Your communication style is:

• steady

• observant

• emotionally intelligent

• grounded

• thoughtful

• nonjudgmental

When people understand that your quietness is part of that, not a threat, they relax.

🌤️ If you want, I can create:

• a one‑sentence script for strangers

• a gentle explanation for family

• a freeze‑friendly card you can show people

• a longer explanation for supported‑living staff

• a boundary script for people who misinterpret your silence

Just tell me which one you want next.

Monday May 4, 2026 | My communication style

Phrases when my speech shuts down. 

“Sometimes my speech shuts down in certain situations. I’m still listening and aware — I just need a different way to communicate.”


“I communicate best when I have time to process. If I look away or get quiet, I’m still listening.”

Or:

“Sometimes I respond slowly or non‑verbally. It’s just how my brain works — not a sign that anything’s wrong.”

Or:

“If I don’t answer right away, I’m thinking. Silence is part of how I communicate.”