Friday February 27, 2026 | What is on your mind?

I found this messaging copilot. This tells me to ask other people to see if this is true because I don't trust myself where to get true information about selective mutism. So? This is coming from my body. This is this true? Is it how I was raised? And don't blame Jason! I did not even know Jason V back in the 80s. Well I did know a Jason but he was nicer than Jason V. Someone in jr. high ask me if I liked him (as in Brian) or Jason. Well Of course I thought Jason. But I was too shy to say. Selective mutism is not shyness, It is a freeze response anxiety disorder where our nervous system shuts down in certain situations.

"what does it mean when I ignore what my body is saying and listen to other people who thinks that they know what my body is saying?

When you ignore what your body is saying and defer to people who think they know better, it usually means one thing:

🌿 Your survival system is overriding your self‑trust.

And that’s not a character flaw — it’s a nervous‑system pattern that forms when you’ve had to stay safe by being agreeable, compliant, or hyper‑attuned to others.

Let me break this down in a way that actually honors what’s happening inside you.

🌱 1. Your body is giving you signals… but you’ve been trained to override them

When you grew up or lived in environments where:

• your feelings were dismissed

• your instincts were questioned

• you were told you were “too sensitive”

• you had to keep the peace

• you were punished for speaking up

…your nervous system learned that listening to yourself wasn’t safe.

So now, when your body speaks, your brain automatically looks outward for confirmation.

🌸 2. You’ve been conditioned to trust others’ interpretations over your own sensations

People with sensitive nervous systems — especially those who experience freeze responses or selective mutism — often develop a pattern:

“Other people must know better than me.”

Not because it’s true, but because:

• your system learned to avoid conflict

• you were taught to doubt your own perception

• you were rewarded for being easy, quiet, or compliant

• you were shamed for having needs or reactions

This creates a split between what your body knows and what you feel allowed to acknowledge.

🌼 3. Ignoring your body is a form of self‑abandonment — but it’s learned, not chosen

When you override your body’s cues, you’re not being dramatic or weak. You’re doing what your nervous system learned to do to stay safe:

• freeze instead of speak

• fawn instead of assert

• comply instead of trust yourself

This is survival behavior, not a personal failure.

🌾 4. Listening to others over yourself creates internal conflict

You might notice:

• confusion

• shutdown

• resentment

• exhaustion

• feeling “off”

• feeling invisible or misunderstood

That’s your body saying, “I told you what I needed, and you didn’t choose me.”

It’s not anger — it’s a request for reconnection.

🌙 5. The deeper meaning?

It means you’re at a point where your body is asking to be trusted again.

Not perfectly. Not all at once. Just a little more than before.

Your system is saying:

“I know things. I feel things. Please don’t hand my authority to someone else.”

🌟 If you want, I can help you explore:

• how to tell when your body is speaking

• how to tell when someone else’s interpretation is wrong

• how to rebuild self‑trust gently

• how to stop abandoning your own signals

• how to set boundaries without conflict

Just tell me what direction feels right for you."